Civility
"Civility means a great deal more than just being nice to one another. It is complex and encompasses learning how to connect successfully and live well with others, developing thoughtfulness, and fostering effective self-expression and communication." P.M. Forni, co-founder of the Civility Institue at John Hopkin's.
What is Civility?
- Personal Responsibility
- Community Safety
- Values-Based Decision Making
Examples of Civility:
- Saying please and thank you
- Listening to understand and help
- Respecting those different from us
- Acknowledging our mistakes
- Stopping at a red light
- Giving directions to someone who is lost
- Yielding with grace when losing an argument
- Disagreeing with poise
- Welcoming a new neighbor
- Throwing away a piece of trash left by someone else
Resources
Student Civility Recommended Reading List
Interested in learning more about civility? Check out the following list of books, TED talks and online resources!
Books
Born for Love: Why Empathy is Essential-and Endangered by Maia Szalavitz and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD
Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Fives Rules of Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni, PhD
Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman, PhD
People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts by Robert Bolton, PhD
The Civility Solution: What to Do When People Are Rude by P.M. Forni, PhD
The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael Nichols, PhD
TED Talks
Civility by Shelby Scarbrough, TEDxNapaValley 2016
Civility and Citizenry by Diana Laufenberg, TEDxGrandForks 2014
The Force of Civility by Diana Damron, TEDxWhitefish 2015
Online Articles and Resources
Civility in America: An Annual Nationwide Survey published by Weber Shadwick
George Washington's Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation published by Foundations Magazine